Some of the scientific evidence points to how resilience only comes into operation when certain events take place. Some people according to this theory have extra stuff that lets them come back from terrible events. But there are a range of events just short that need us to behave with balance.
Developing the skills of emotional literacy in which we bring our emotions into balance through a simple but challenging process of feeling them and translating them into words so that they can be reflected upon inwardly and outwardly, is what allows us to become emotionally balanced and sober people. People who are able to use their emotions consciously to fuel passion, communication and understanding.
Here is a short video clip on attaining Emotional Sobriety: