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What I do for love?

I come to this question after years of experience being loved – feeling all the warmth, desire and longing that are found widely in sonnets, plays, songs and the like.  They take us through  a door at its heights of ecstasy and lust to the depths of a cave of despair and longing for it … Continue reading

To Deserve A Gift?

It is not the office of a man to receive gifts For many the pastoral voice of Ralph Waldo Emerson speaks to a self that stands for a kind of freedom that lights a fire in their heart. It screams of self esteem in the face of a demanding horde that would control and break … Continue reading

The Great Divide – Context, Framework and Power

The End of Days May 21st 2011 – for some this is the day – the last day of time.  I don’t agree.  Bad theology may predict some event or the other, but like a broken clock does correctly define current time twice a day – someday will be the last day in time, but … Continue reading

How Men and Woman can be Worthy Friends?

It’s very common for female profiles to suggest how men can achieve a level of success – the problem – “friends first…then”. Damn – why that – the sentiment is understandable, I guess. No one wants to be seen only as means – a body, smile, or vesicle for someone’s… pleasure. As far back as … Continue reading

Fragments, Traps and Ghost – reading dating site profiles

In a moment when Jesus was asked to demonstrate his “becoming”: Jesus – by performing an exorcism exposes what I’m calling the sorry state of human reality – fragments, traps and ghost.  He demands the tormented one to speak his name, receiving the answer, “I am Legion”. To our modern sensibilities this answer seems strange … Continue reading

As near to Integrity, as I dare!

There can be no friendship without confidence; and no confidence, without integrity Confessing to integrity, refers to the way members of this kind of relationship bear witness to their belief that one should live a life that is authentic, true to oneself, and then true to others. The centrifugal force which pushes them to adopt these … Continue reading

Evil is as Evil Does!(Reciprocity Series 3 of 4)

Now with Good understood, we turn to the next two elements – responses to evil.  These ideas are especially important in our age of avatars, identity thief, bifurcation of society, and simple aging. Resist evil Never return evil for evil If we are not to return evil for evil, how should we be disposed to … Continue reading

Good for Good – (Reciprocity Series, 2 of 4)

Only a few remain in the net… The real work of relationship is becoming “worthy friends” – whatever that is? The net is starting to fray – the sites you’ve casted your net on have brought you just these few interesting “prospects” – they have done what they can do – it’s up to you … Continue reading

From Father to Oldest Son

I came across this note I had sent to my oldest son on the occasion of an incident with a lover affair that had soured.  As my name sake, he has chosen to live too many of the same patterns of life that I have.  This note was sent with and continues be an expression … Continue reading

Lessons From a Drinking Party

The drinking party – where Plato stages his great discussion on Eros (The Symposium) was not a quiet and deliberative discussion in fact, the Greeks of the day could not have imagine such an inquiry into the matters of the heart anywhere but in an atmosphere suffused with the playful, passionate and erotic scene of … Continue reading